α. 1900s– refained, 1900s– refaned, 1900s– refayned.
β. 1900s– refeened 
/rɪˈfiːnd/.
refainedadj.
/rᵻˈfeɪnd/, U.S. /rəˈfeɪnd/, /riˈfeɪnd/ humorous and depreciative.
= refined adj. 2.
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the world > action or operation > behaviour > affected behaviour or affectation > [adjective] > affecting refinement
young-ladyfied1616
genteel1631
genteea1680
fal-lal1747
shabby-genteel1754
fine-ladylike1755
fine-ladyish1777
ladyish1830
silver-fork1831
haw-haw1841
lardy-dardy1861
la-di-dac1883
refained1925
α.
β. 1933 J. Betjeman Ghastly Good Taste vii. 122 A ‘refeened’ pseudo-Queen Anne effort.1962 N. Marsh Hand in Glove i. 28 Nicola..wondered if Mr. Period would find the phrase ‘refeened’, a word he often used with humorous intent.1976 Listener 25 Mar. 386/4 The blowzy, mini-skirted divorcee with a loutish son and an impossibly ‘refeened’ mother.1998 I. de la Bere Last Deception Palliser Wentwood iii. 68 Comes in here for a port on market days, ever so refeened, but no better than she should be by all accounts.1925 Times 23 June 21/3 Beside them most of the British figures look missish; they remind you of that party where everybody was ‘so refained’.
1930 A. Huxley Brief Candles 25 Altogether too much the lady—refained; you know the type. A Governess;..the genteel, Jane Eyre, daughter-of-clergyman kind.
1939 R. Campbell Flowering Rifle ii. 46 The most ‘refayned’ of all that breed.
1961 Radio Times 27 Apr. 63/4 The Kilt Is My Delight is indeed a delightful programme, but..may I suggest that it sometimes takes on a less ‘refaned’ air? Always these immaculately dressed ladies and gentlemen prance around in some ‘stately home’.
1972 A. MacVicar Golden Venus Affair v. 53 Her accent was ‘refained’, but it betrayed a Glasgow East End origin.
This entry has been updated (OED Third Edition, September 2009; most recently modified version published online March 2022).
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